Nils-Books — Index
Content catalog. Every page listed under its type with a one-line summary. Read this first to find relevant pages. Last updated: 2026-09-19 | Total pages: 36
Books
- Book: *Wide Open* — Nils Klippstein, 2026 — opening the heart and building a stable network of loving relationships instead of the exclusive couple model
Topic pages
- monogamy — exclusive monogamy as a built order — control, property, inheritance — and the shame around non-exclusive bonding as inherited, not personal (concept)
- networks-of-love — a stable web of relationships sharing the emotional load, LOVE abundant rather than scarce (concept)
- hugging-meditations — sustained, fully clothed embraces for energetic healing; the book’s central practice (practice)
- jealousy-as-a-team-process — jealousy as a fear alarm the whole team works together, not a personal failing — the model’s biggest barrier (concept)
- heart-centred-communication — speaking and listening from the heart centre, not ego or fear; includes the daily heart-share (practice)
- shadow-work — the network as a mirror: defence patterns, jealousy and envy untangled, core relational beliefs, self-validation (concept)
- planning-pause — a transparent check-in before committing plans involving others — transparency, not permission (practice)
- reconnection-ritual — the after-time-apart ritual that bridges absence and reunion — the only rule: don’t skip it (practice)
- non-attachment-and-compersion — holding jealousy and joy together; letting bonds grow and end without possession (concept)
- allowances-and-boundaries — positive agreements and levels of closeness that create safety rather than control, revisited as relationships evolve (concept)
- emotional-self-regulation — recognising triggers, pausing, self-soothing, and owning one’s own emotional reactions (practice)
- time-and-energy-management — shared time as the network’s structural resource: bandwidth, fairness, solo time, existing commitments (practice)
- conflict-repair — de-escalation, apologising for consequences rather than intentions, and repair that rebuilds the whole circle, not just two people (practice)
- touch-as-connection — touch as communication of safety and belonging — the mini-hug, the conditioned system’s withholding, warmth carried across bonds (concept)
- safety-and-consent — continuous, revocable consent, safe words, and safety as the ground every other skill stands on (concept)
- radical-honesty-and-trust — hiding nothing as the precondition of the model; the freedom vow; trust built from repeated honest moments (concept)
- abundance-and-scarcity-in-love — LOVE as abundant rather than a limited resource; scarcity thinking as the fuel of jealousy (concept)
- shame-and-social-conditioning — shame around loving more than one as inherited conditioning, met with conscious unlearning rather than guilt (concept)
- group-dynamics-in-a-relationship-network — the network as a group with its own dynamics: ripples, triangulation vs mediation, shared carrying, group-level awareness (concept)
- glossary — the books’ shared vocabulary, each term in the author’s own understanding — starting with Luma (reference)
- sanuela-retreats — a few days at Finca Sanuela: the books’ themes as lived practice, shaped around your needs (reference)
Chapter summaries
wide-open
- ch-00-foreword — the full foreword, unabridged: the inner voice after the last traditional breakup, and how the search for the new way began
- ch-01-a-different-glow — Layla’s retreat glow (Luma) over café chai, and Maia’s fear of the cage
- ch-02-the-inherited-order — how the one-partner model was built by named rulers and church figures, and what the cited verses actually say
- ch-03-why-live-like-a-potted-plant — potted plant versus garden network; load-sharing, touch without ownership, jealousy named as the barrier
- ch-04-breathing-love — Maia’s first glow by the pond; guilt and glow coexisting on the walk home
- ch-05-a-new-honesty — two confessions in a dark kitchen; the freedom vow, radical honesty and radical trust
- ch-06-the-blueprint-takes-shape — the skills list begins: communication, self-regulation, boundaries, jealousy as a team sport
- ch-07-shadow-work — jealousy and envy untangled, the network as a mirror, and Chloe offered as a connection of Mark’s own
- ch-08-plans-and-expectations — the Thursday crash over shared time; time and energy as the network’s scarcest resource
- ch-09-surrender-and-honesty — transparency after an evening with Chloe; surprise jealousy; the Planning Pause
- ch-10-becoming-we — jealousy and joy as coexisting visitors; compersion and non-attachment as skills
- ch-11-safe-exploration — boundaries agreed before, consent lived in the moment, the Reconnection Ritual after
- ch-12-networks-of-love — the closing essay: two plants in a pot versus the garden ecosystem
- ch-13-a-few-days-that-change-everything — a few days at Finca Sanuela: the book’s themes met in person